Writer, designer, maker, body image advocate, over-45 college student and basic June-of-all-things just trying to get by like everyone else.

How I’m Learning to Stop Being a People Pleaser

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Image by drromie from Pixabay

I consider myself to be a fairly tough chick. This hasn’t always been the case. Growing up with a strong-willed and often emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive mother, I felt weak and useless most of the time. Growing up in a family of other strong-willed people just exacerbated that feeling. Although I had the same loud voice and physical presence (we are not a small bunch), I never felt like I had the same inner fire.

And perhaps I didn’t. I was in survival mode most of the time, I think…


People are weird and you can’t please them all.

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Image by Perfecto_Capucine from Pixabay

I moved from Texas to Tennessee when I was 14 (way back in 1988). Doesn’t really seem like that drastic of a move does it? Both states are in the south, both are known for their “good ol’ boys”, and let’s face it, a lot of Tennesseans migrated down to Texas back in the day. It should have been an easy transition, right? Not so much. Here are a couple of the questions I was asked by classmates in my first few days.

1. Did you ride horses everywhere? Have you ever ridden in a car before?

2. Did you…


Scrooge in Stilettos Meets Hot Fireman

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Noelle is a photographer who had given up on her dream and is now an uptight HR manager for a high-end department store. Jake is a sexy fireman in line for a big promotion he’s not sure he wants. The two meet when Jake becomes Noelle’s upstairs neighbor. They are further thrown together when they are both appointed to plan the charity gala Noelle’s store is sponsoring for the fire department. …


Two gorgeous blondes fall in love.

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Title: MARRY ME AT CHRISTMAS

Starring: Rachel Skarsten (LOVE her!) and Trevor Donovan (SWOON!)

Release Year: 2017

Based on Book by Susan Mallery (Highly recommend the Fools Gold Series!)

Channel: Hallmark Movies (watched on demand via FRNDLY app)

Premise:

Maddie is the co-owner of a bridal shop in the small town of Fool’s Gold who agrees to take on the part of wedding planner for Ginger Blake. Johnny is Ginger’s famous action-star brother who has come to town to help plan the wedding. Maddie and Ginger want simple and tasteful for the wedding and…


So very charming.

Who doesn’t love a good cheesy Christmas romance movie? Okay, lots of people. But I love the heck out of them. This is the first of my Somewhat Snarky Guide to Hallmark Christmas Movies which I’ll be publishing up until Christmas.

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Title: A Little Christmas Charm

Starring: Ashley Greene and Brendan Penny

Channel: Hallmark Movies & Mysteries (I watched it on demand via the Frndly app on my Fire Stick)

PREMISE:

Holly (Ashley Greene) is a jewelry designer who refuses to sell her work. Greg (Brendan Penny) is a reporter who screwed up a big story and…


Doors Closed by Covid

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Image Credit: Photocreo

Two days ago I officially announced the closure of my web design business. I have not had a new project in eleven months. When the bill for my hosting and domain re-seller account came up due last month, I couldn’t pay it and so my business websites (all of them, including my book website and my writing blog) have been gone since then. But last night I made it Facebook Official.

By admitting it openly to everyone I know, via Facebook, I was finally able to admit it to myself. That has been the hardest part. I’ve been stewing in…


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Image by Shahariar Lenin from Pixabay

It’s that time of year again. A couple of weeks ago everyone made a bunch of New Year’s Resolutions. Three weeks in and most of them have been discarded and everyone is feeling crappy about it. We are often very hard on ourselves. Instead of making resolutions, we should try, instead, to be a little kinder to ourselves.

Ditch the Resolutions


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Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

Are you or someone you know a self-bully?

Your first reaction might be that “self-bully” is a term I must made up. Okay, so it is. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t real. I use it to define the habitual negative self-talk many of us engage in on a daily basis.

According to the National Centre Against Bullying, “Bullying is an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behavior that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. …


Let me be very, very clear…there are spoilers for Veronica Mars Season 4 in this diatribe, so if you haven’t watched it yet, you may want to go binge it and come back later.

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I should also warn that you shouldn’t expect this to be a shining example of my writing. My emotions are raw and I’ve had too much coffee and not enough sleep — who could sleep peacefully after that ending?

First off let me say that in the title when I say “Veronica Mars” I mean the whole show, not the lead character, not the beautiful Kristen…


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I’m going to share with you a story about something that happened to me the other day. I’m not sharing screenshots or people’s names, because it just isn’t necessary. I have a point to make, but that can be done without publicly calling people out or trying to shame people who were just upset. I think I can accurately paraphrase what happened, and I welcome anyone who participated or witnessed the event to call me out if I have details incorrect.

Around mid-morning, early afternoon, I saw a thread pop up on Facebook in one of the many fat positive…

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